A wee vent
Life is good - pregnancy is good - work is good.
Baby is growing exactly as it should.
Hey, that rhymes.
I've vented about this before, but I find it really irritating how eager people are to tell us what a bad idea home birth is. Yes home birth is a bad idea in some situations - like for my friend who wasn't able to have one because of a clotting disorder. And I'm not sure I would be as comfy with it if I didn't live 15 minutes from a hospital that is very accustomed to working with home birth midwives in the case of transfer. But how dumb do these people think we are? Do they think we are unknowingly putting our health and our baby's health at risk to satisfy some whim? I've read the studies about the safety and not just articles about the studies, but the actual studies (including a study at the hospital where I am pre-registered). And I feel like for us it's the right choice.
I would never dream of criticising someone for choosing an epidural, or a cesarean. Those are personal choices, and I would never judge someone for saying they need pain relief - pain tolerance is a very personal thing. Who know, maybe I will decide I need it. So why should they judge me (us) and my (our) choices? And what these people don't seem to realise is that while yes, there are some benefits to being in the hospital, there are some benefits to being at home as well.
Anyway, I'm getting over it. D joked that we should invite the naysayers over for a meal of placenta afterwards... which you have to admit would be quite amusing. Unfortunately, I fear we do not have enough freezer space for it.
Baby is growing exactly as it should.
Hey, that rhymes.
I've vented about this before, but I find it really irritating how eager people are to tell us what a bad idea home birth is. Yes home birth is a bad idea in some situations - like for my friend who wasn't able to have one because of a clotting disorder. And I'm not sure I would be as comfy with it if I didn't live 15 minutes from a hospital that is very accustomed to working with home birth midwives in the case of transfer. But how dumb do these people think we are? Do they think we are unknowingly putting our health and our baby's health at risk to satisfy some whim? I've read the studies about the safety and not just articles about the studies, but the actual studies (including a study at the hospital where I am pre-registered). And I feel like for us it's the right choice.
I would never dream of criticising someone for choosing an epidural, or a cesarean. Those are personal choices, and I would never judge someone for saying they need pain relief - pain tolerance is a very personal thing. Who know, maybe I will decide I need it. So why should they judge me (us) and my (our) choices? And what these people don't seem to realise is that while yes, there are some benefits to being in the hospital, there are some benefits to being at home as well.
Anyway, I'm getting over it. D joked that we should invite the naysayers over for a meal of placenta afterwards... which you have to admit would be quite amusing. Unfortunately, I fear we do not have enough freezer space for it.
posted by grass @ 9:55 PM
4 Comments:
At 10:02 AM ,
Shelley said...
Very funny -- I got pressure the other way (it's Portland, after all) and was treated like a pariah for choosing an "unnatural" childbirth. (I always wanted to ask what was so unnatural about it -- it's not like the baby came out of my nose.)
You can't imagine what happened when my husband had to explain to the women at his work that I couldn't nurse Eden -- he thought they were going to lynch him. (Right -- better for her if I breastfeed and she a) gets blood pressure medication, too, or b) starves to death because she can't suck well enough?)
Pregnancy and childrearing is so bizarre to me: all of a sudden, the community has some sort of property interest in your body and isn't afraid to exercise it.
At 3:09 PM ,
Anonymous said...
LOL! I think it's none of anyone's business. Some people just can't help adding their two cents. from portia12
At 4:56 PM ,
Michelle said...
The part that gets me, seeing all that I do on a regular basis, is that the general population is in total denial/cluelessness about the RISKS of hospital birth. Or in just plain not making educated choices, either way. And it never gets old - I'm planning my third homebirth and still having to have the same stupid conversations I had with family the first time around!
You're going to have a fabulous birth, by the way. No matter how/where it unfolds!
At 6:49 AM ,
Ms. Mcgee said...
People get so judgemental around this topic (and pretty munch every other area related to kids). It's not as though you're going to be in a cabin in the woods all by yourself.
This fits under my life umbrella of "If what you do does not affect my life, then why do I get a say in it?" We'd have so many less republicans here if everyone followed that train of thought...
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